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Be mindful of critical self-talk

Treat yourself like someone you love!

When we are depressed, exhausted, or otherwise overwhelmed, it is easy for our inner voice to turn negative.  

When you find yourself thinking that you are not doing enough, or that you are doing things wrong, or even that you just can't do it anymore, you need to remember you are doing the best you can. That is all any of us can do. 

If that doesn't work, ask yourself if someone spoke to someone you love the way you are talking to yourself - would it upset you? If the answer is yes, then treat yourself like someone you love!

There are books and tools available to help you find the time to care about yourself!

365 Days of Self-Care: A Journal, by Jayne Hardy

Self-care is a preventative action that focuses on our health and happiness. Yet so often it gets put aside when other things, and people, vie for our time and attention - it's only when life has knocked us to our knees that we realise how vitally important it is.  This book will help you to plan for obstacles, devize contingency plans, be mindful of the way your days play out, and prioritize the things that are truly important to you. The journal offers the flexibility of choosing to start the writing anytime, on any day, in any year, making it easy to bring more self-care into your life. The book is available on Amazon.com.


The Self-Care Project: How to let go of frazzle and make time for you by Jayne Hardy

Everything you need to know about self-care. What it is, why it's important, why it's such a struggle, and how to integrate it into day-to-day life.  There's a damaging misconception in society that putting ourselves first is an act of selfishness. But self-care is not just a millennial buzzword. Without the restorative power of self-care, how will we ever escape the vicious circle where we're sick and fed-up of feeling sick and fed-up? Self-care is a tool accessible to us all, which helps us to take responsibility for our own happiness - our physical, emotional, psychological, and social needs.

The Self-Care Project is for those who have been feeling off-kilter for a while but have not been able to put the finger on the 'why.' It is a no-nonsense, practical journey to help you do just that. It'll walk you through the case for self-care (why it's so darn important), why it isn't selfish at all, help you explore what self-care means for you, what your obstacles might be and provide advice on how to chisel out daily space for self-care in a practical, achievable and realistic way. The book is available on Amazon.com.

Jayne Hardy  is the CEO and founder of The Blurt Foundation.
Twitter: @JayneHardy_
Instagram: @JayneHardy

Options to journal about self-care - without spending money

You do not have to spend money to keep a self-care journal. You can make your own! Here is one we made using MS Word.  If you would like the .pdf version of our template, email us!

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